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Some people seem to think that if we surround ourselves with every possible device, we will never be lonely.

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“Facebook and Twitter have become central forums of social interaction. A shift to social media led to the underdevelopment of the ability to interact with others in person.” (Lutfala, 2011). While we are busy connecting to others via our phones, we may not even realize that we are only turning our backs on the people around us. To the flesh and blood people that surround us, we are just a hologram of ourselves; something that is there but at the same time completely unapproachable. “We live in an accelerating contradiction: the more connected we become, the lonelier we are.” (Marche, 2012)

Some people seem to think that if we surround ourselves with every possible device, we will never be lonely. TV will entertain us during the night, we have our laptops to chat with our Facebook friends and our smartphones are next to us on the couch like a loyal friend so we can ‘Snapchat’ with our buddies about the dinner we made. How could we possibly feel lonely? According to Sherry Turkle, clinical psychologist and MIT professor, “We are getting used to a new way of being alone together.” (Turkle, 2012)

In her book, Alone Together: Why we expect more from technology and less from each other, she proposes that the connections built in this way give us some kind of companionship without the difficulties of friendship. We constantly text, email, check our Facebook statuses, no matter if we are sitting in school, at work, or even worse, at the dinner table with our families. We never give our loved ones 100 percent of our attention anymore. Twitter and Facebook updates seem to be more entertaining and exciting.

References:

Lutfala, A. (2011, October 28). Technology Imposes Social Isolation. Pugetsound.edu. Retrieved February 3, 2014.

Marche, S. (2012, April 2). Is Facebook Making Us Lonely? Theathlantic.com. Retrieved February 3, 2014.

Strachan, Y. (2012, April 16). Does Social Media Cause a More Isolated Society? Digitaljournal.com. Retrieved February 3, 2014.